LIVE HAPPILY

We all think that for all our miseries others are responsible.we also shift this blame on the God saying that he has deprived us of these worldly pleasures.We never think for a while as to how far we are correct in blaming others.In reality we are responsible for all our miseries and we never accept this fact.For Example.If you want to prepare a cake for christmas what you need is eggs,flour,sugar.But instead of these items if you place there a bag of potatoes,mutton,garlic etc .You may be able to prepare a mutton curry or potatoe curry but you can never prepare a cake.I think you agree with me.Now coming to our real life this is what we are doing.we wish to have a cake but we never try to get the necessary ingredients.what ever may be our reasons or explanations we get other items which are a bit cheaper or costlier but we totally ignore the necessary ingredients.In our school and college days we know our interests and capabilities.But we never choose the subjects in which we have interest and which we can handle easily .The reasons may be these subjects does not provide us good job opportunities.So we take the subjects like engineering science etc. although we are neither interested nor can handle these subjects.We waste all our precious time in mugging up the substance without any analysis or reasoning of our own as we are not interested in that subject.with great difficulty we complete the course.Then try for a job.By hook or by crooke we get a job.we start working in that job.we can never go beyond the scope of that which we are handling.You never try to do any research nor do you try to improve your skills.But in the end you will blame your collegues saying that they have grabbed your opportunities in your job or shift the burden on to your management by saying that they have not considered you for a better job or a high level job.Slowly a sort of depression takes over you and you can neither concentrate on your job nor on your life.If only you have made a right choice and taken the subjects in which you are interested you would try to build up your skills do some research and always think productively without blaming your selves or others.Now coming to marriage.Here also you only see the the position held by your father-in-law ,brother-in- laws and their bank balance.you totally forget that what comes along with you is only your spouse whom you may marry .The jobs and the bank balances of your father-in-law,or brother-in-laws will not be transfered on your name. You totally ignore this fact.you never think about the qualities of your spouse what is that you are expecting from your spouse.Only after marriage you come into reality.Then you start shouting at your spouse for no fault. you start blaming your father-in law,brother-in-laws saying that they have cheated you.You create your own disturbances in your family by your shouting and adament attitude and instead of making your life a heaven you make it a hell.Now again you start blaming God saying that he has ruined your life although it is you who has ruined your life.You again start sympathising with your life after you lost the valuable part of your life.you first decide what is it you want in life and in which direction you want to proceed and only then take your step.This will help you find a right path in which you can travel and suceed in your life.